Wednesday, December 16, 2009

No, it's not baby Jesus

One comes every year.  That Christmas "card" with a new baby's picture.  I got one today.  No, it is not Jesus.  The baby is from a well meaning relative or acquantance that is proud to show off their new addition to their family.  The only problem is that someone forgot to tell me they were expected a baby!  You see, I am infertile and again those well meaning people think they shouldn't tell me when they or a relative or friend are expecting a baby.  People like my husband, my mother-in-law, friends and co-workers feel they shouldn't tell me about a new expectant mother and father.  Maybe they are afraid that I will faint or collapse in a crying fit.  I don't understand why they think this as I have never cried or fainted in front of these people (with the exception crying in front of husband) before.

It may come as a surprise but I am happy when I hear that someone is expecting.  It is a blessing from God, why wouldn't I be happy?  Actually, it hurts me more when I hear after the fact.  I feel robbed and then I feel bad because I didn't send a card or even an email to the mother.  I hate finding out when the baby is born or worst yet almost a year old; as in the current case as I guess this baby's age from this Christmas "card".

Advice:  Don't feel bad about telling an infertile woman about another woman's pregnancy.    

Friday, December 19, 2008